The Agony of Premarital Sex

THE AGONY OF PREMARITAL SEX: THE PRE AND POST-WEDDING NIGHT EXPERIENCE

Apart from looking up to the wedding day that most people envision, the joy of the wedding night is also a memorable experience that lovers look forward to having provided they’re not burned out due to the stress of the day.

Apart from that, it is a night that the marriage is consummated through sex. To some, it is a journey to sexual adventure while to others, it’s a journey to more sexual escapades outside marriage.

Whether you believe it or not, those who have abstained from sex till marriage are mostly excited about their wedding night experience. It’s going to be a night of sexual adventure when the gift of oneness would just be unwrapped.

It is this night that God intended that a man and his wife would be both ‘naked and unashamed’. Although, you may have other meanings to that phrase but that’s a fact about it. But to some, they’re naked and ashamed sexually because of their past sexual encounter.

There’s a picture of premarital sex that I want to paint for you to understand the evils in it. If you have had sex before marriage, here are the likely things that would happen to you in marriage.

👉 1. An unfulfilled sex life

There’s nothing exciting about the icing on a cake when you have tasted it over and over. In fact when you taste several icing, you’ll discover that there’s nothing special about them when you’re giving a new one.

The same happens with sex. All of the sexual encounter you have had would damage your experience in marriage. You know why?

Lots of sexual images, soul tie, experience and excitement of the past would affect your spouse. It’ll make them inexperienced for you because you’d imagine the person with whom you had it best.

This is where comparison would begin. “I wish he did it like…”, “She wasn’t great in bed like…”; all of these would surface on your wedding night or the first time you’d have sex as ‘experienced’ couples.

This is why abstinence pays off. Aside the consequence of premarital sex on your life, it would also affect your marriage because sex can’t be fulfilling. When you shun sex before marriage, you’ll treat sex as important in marriage, it becomes a new thing to you and you’ll have an awesome experience you have never had unlike those who have had it over a thousand times.

It’s a lie from the pit of hell that would make you believe that sex before marriage will make you enjoy great sex in marriage. Never! Don’t buy into the lies that the society would sell over to you! Deception comes with consequences!

👉  2. Lack of a deeper bond with your partner

How can you be bonded to your partner when you have had several soul ties before marriage? It’ll will be difficult to maintain except you become a new creature in Christ. And that doesn’t overrule the past experience, it’ll just keep you contented with whatever sexual gift you unwrap in marriage.

When you have sex with someone, a part of you is given to them, this is where becoming ‘one flesh’ comes into play. Now imagine what would happen if you have had multiple sex before marriage.

When you abstain till marriage, it implies that you’re giving your whole self to your partner and this would create a deeper bond between you two especially when it’s mutual. No thought of divorce will likely spur up because you’ll feel more like one person.

But having premarital sex over and over before marriage will only weaken the bond that sex is meant to be formed when you get married. You’ll be susceptible to extramarital affairs because you’d be looking for sexual fulfillment outside marriage.

👉 3. A bad legacy

It’ll become difficult for you to train your child in the way he should go because you didn’t lived the legacy. Even if a part of you tell them to do the right thing, an inward witness in you would remind you of your past.

Quite a lot of people do not know that sowing the seed of sexual immoralities would have its effect on their offspring. Yorubas would say, “Owu ti ya gbon na ni omo ran“, meaning that it was the legacy that the mother trod that the daughter too embraced.

How would you have all the effrontery to tell you child that sex before marriage is bad? And you know some children could be funny. They could just throw a question at your face: “what did you do when you were my age?”

Will you boldly answer? Shun premarital sex as much as you can. And to those who have become victims of it in the past, ask God for mercy because His mercy prevails over judgment but doesn’t remove some consequence. Repent from the sins of the past and prayerfully deliver yourself from the soul ties you have had which would affect your marriage.

There’s nothing exciting about premarital sex, it’ll only create pre and post-marital issues if you don’t desist now!

 

(c) Mayowa Adeniyi 2015