Before you fall in love.

        BEFORE YOU FALL IN LOVE.
          INTRODUCTION
LOVE IS AN EXPRESSION OF INNER DESIRE IN RESPONSE TO PHYSICAL attractions. Before I say more about love.permit me to tell you about falling in love; no such word in the bible and is not used in Christiandom:
    John 3:16 says ;
  For God loved the world so much NLT.
You discover that God was in love with is but didn't fall in love,but the world influence on the church brought this word into usage, nevertheless the phrase ' fall in love ' emotional response of a being to the physical,social,spiritual and psychological features in the opposite sex.

              Message :
There are many things you need to know about yourself as  guy (brother) or lady (sister) before you can be in love (fall in love) both personal and about the pertner. Let look at few of those things......

1. You need to be in Christ.
   With my experience over the years,in fact I started preaching about relationships at the age of 18yrs when I never fall in love or into any relationship yet the truth I have seen is that any time a lady or brother that does has Christ goes into a relationship then end up to mess up themselves. Permi me to tell you that Holy spirit is the only one that can give you control over your emotions and stabilise your relationship so if you don't have Jesus you can't have the holy spirit and if you dont have the Him:
   YOU ARE NOT QUALIFY TO GO INTO RELATIONSHIP;holy spirit.
You can pray now to ask Jesus to forgive u of sins and come in into your life and holy spirit will come in as He comes. Do it now...................

2. Master your emotions:
  I raised the issue of emotions in the first point, but emotions is also called temperament or an aspect of it.
   You need to know and master your temperament  but holy spirit will give control over it. (I recommend Spirit filled temperament for by Tim laye or some of my write ups in bread of life vite the Web adresse above)
Temperament is basically divided into four parts;
1. Sanguine
11. Melancholy
111. Choleric
1V . Phlegmatic
  Though there are other 12 blends of temperament not I can't discuss tonight,let's stick to these basic four;
Note : Everyone has more one temperament, at lest you have two and each has merits and demerits
   1. You are a sanguin if are always happy to make new friends,you don't  like dull moment,  you like jokes or very funny, you can't keep a single friend because you like meeting new people, mostly you easily fall in love with opposite sex even when he/she  did not propose to you. You are always likes or love by people around, you are touchy type (you like touching people when talking )
  Because of time let me stop there,you can see now that if you're sanguine by nature you will keep on falling in love with sisters or brothers  (vice visa) around and people will say you're useless is because they don't  know you are made to love. If you're sanguine with my explanation you need to lean more by reading  as I will try to put more on my website next week for you to read.
  11.  You are melancholy if you are the caring type, you are caring to extent that you can harm your self to satisfy others you like,you are cool headed,obvervant and like helping people,  you simple and open minded does not like offending people.
  Such a person through caring you can develop love (fall in love) with people you help or helping this makes melancholy to the flexible and can be damaged if walk with wrong people, as people can easily take advantage of them.

111. You are choleric if you prudent,stable emotion (you can say no when no is needed and when u need to say so) you have self confidence, you always believe in your self.and you highly principled and you don't like people disregard your principles you have charisma as a leader such are called Born leaders.
You believe in your self to the extent that you  want things done in your ways. Mostly people some think you're proud.
   You don't easily fall in love because you have a lot of things to consider before you say Yes.

1V. Phlegmatic are introvert (moody type) they don't like new things,  don't like outing or flashy things. You have to motivate such to do at thing against his or her will which may not work mostly.
  They are not easily attracted to people because they hardly smile though inside them is love and wonderful friend but on the surface they have reason to smile not every time you must smile is their principle.

3. What's your motivation?
   Everyone must have a motivation for everything they do, Do you know that:
A. Flesh can motive you, especially if you're sanguine or melancholy
B. Spirit of God can also do.
C.  Your desire in life can also do that. So you need the Holy spirit.
  No matter what is motivating you still have a matured Christian as confidant either leader or friend but leader is more preferable.
  I will not deceive you the flesh's motivation toward relationship is high in our generation so you need a lot to do so that you will not fall in to the trap.

4. You need to matured.
  Love is ment for those that are matured in mind, spirit  and understand, love damage you if you are not matured enough to handle it.
  Many youth thinks they can fall in love at any age but I tell your the truth you need to be matured before you fall so that you will not damage your life.
  The matured ones will enjoy while the immature suffers.

5. Decide before you enter;
    This is mostly for sisters, they say yes either by action or words without praying through,telling prayer friend non pastor or any one that can help as a Christian.
  Note this : IF YOU FALL IN LOVE WHEN YOUR HEART AND NOT YOUR HEAD IS LEADING YOU WILL SURELY CRASH LAND SUCH RELATIONSHIP.
  Many of you can tell many relationship that  has crash land when it was the heart   that was leading;  don't fall in love and then be thinking thinking is not possible then, because your will submit to the heart after you made decision with him  (head or brain)

6. IT'S NOT A GAME:
   I want you to realise that Love is not a game nor Holywood film it's realise and it's God 1 John 4:8But anyone who does not love does not know God, for God is love.

7. Finally; IT'S YOUR FUTURE.
    Many fail to understand that love is the definition of your future,  however if you handle or be in love,it determines what your life becomes in years to come.
   Many people end up in frustration in marriage and divorce but they started very well;though I can't judge anyone just an example to tell us that it's not a game that has an end. So don't try play anyone unless you end up being played.