Text: I tim 5:8
But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.
Message:
But don’t begin until you count the cost. For who would begin construction of a building without first calculating the cost to see if there is enough money to finish it?
This was where we stopped last week, before anyone will think of starting a home;he/she must first count the cost and I gave us 3 cost he/she needs to count,in addition :
4: You need to count the cost of character,many ladies are very rude and disrespectful, infact if there is a competition for rude people on africa some of the ladies we see even in the church will surely come out as first or second in Africa. Same for men,alot of them are arogant and lazy all they want is a wife that will serve them as slave,marriage is not slavery so if don't count your cost of character it may cost you,your entire life. There are many virtues woman should have,do you have any?To make a good wife? Do you know those virtues are more important than certificate,beauty or wedding gown.
People concluded that christian sisters are more rude in marriage than unbelievers,An adage says character is beauty!!! Are you beautiful(do you have a good character to a wife )
Some marriage the husband is the Almighty father,the lion of the tribe of Judah,no one dare question,oppose nor remove from his words,and this is even happening in the christian marriage, the husband will want the wife to honor him as people worship 'Sango' .for God's sake why didn't you count the cost of your character.some of the that is how their mother honors their father; when the man calls once 'Iya bimpe'!! She must answer him 3times 'sir! Sir!! Sir!!! Mo n gbo sir oooo! Why ?? Marriage should not be so,there should touch of romance always.
Some married men can play or crack jokes with their wife,just they joke with other sisters in the church/fellowship . The most terrible of all is men of God who will in the name of anointing become a demon in the house,wife and children can't play or with them,uhmmm You must be ready to drop your ego,certificate,background,anointing etc because you must be disrespected by your spouse. Do you my wife is the only that can disrespect me because love covers multitude of sin.
Verse 28. ...........calculating the cost to see if there is enough money to finish it.
5. Do you have the sufficient work,business etc to provide for your home?
Some sisters thought money is picked on the floor,and some are too lazy and short vision,tell them to go to school after they carryover five or six courses they will come back saying 'am through with my ND or NCE ask for their certificate after years of graduation nothing to show for it;I pity you if you think there are brothers that will be working and all you do is to consume his labour;even his family will never pray for you.dont be a lazy and idle wife,if your line is academics read well and be the best,if it is business do it well.dont be a wife that all she can count is shoe and bags. Instead of wasting money on shoe,bag,and expensive phones why not on business that will bring in money? A wise woman builds her home!
Some brothers on the other hands if they manage to see an hard working sister they become 'Stainless handed' Alapa stainless! They want to get married but no money to rent house,no money to buy chair,no money to suit, no money to give family to cook,etc whatever you ask them no money is their answer,I wonder na by force then they marry? That is the result of not counting cost before marriage.
1Tim. 5:8
NIV;
Anyone who does not provide for their relatives, and especially for their own household, has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.
You can see that counting the kind of to do to sustain the marriage is more important than I love you up and down, I also love you front and back you are doing.
Chapter two
........verse 29;Otherwise, you might complete only the foundation before running out of money, and then everyone would laugh at you.
If sister or brother did not work hard both in learning,praying and building them selves in the word of God,though they may get married but the marriage will not leave the foundation level; what do I mean? Meaning if they did not build themselves along,they will enter the marriage but everything will stand still. I discover when get married that marriage is not a destination but a journey, if will enjoy marriage you still continue to build even when you enter it,that is why the cost of the two to work has one is needed.
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