COUPLING INDIVIDUAL VISIONS IN RELATIONSHIP...

BREAD OF LIFE
SATURDAY 18TH MARCH 2017.

TOPIC: COUPLING INDIVIDUAL VISIONS IN RELATIONSHIP...

Introduction:
    Who ever is signing up for relationship must understand that no more:
1. Personal life, personal ambition and person race.
2. No personal focus or personal business etc.
    The world personal does not exist on marriage because ;
     Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.Gen.2:24 kjv.
   Therefore their is need for wisdom when its comes handling this issue. Many homes has become political tenure where each candidates persue different projects at a time . I mean concurrently.  But marriage was not instituted to the so from the beginning.
    Coupling individual vision together in relationship includes alot of steps and knowing that these can be done while in courtship and not after marriage, if it's after marriage I call it remedia class. And we shall discus as time will permit ,as am restricted by time: let's look at these steps;

Chapter 1.
   I want to  agree that my audiences are youth that has heard good and correct teachings about knowing the will of God? If that is yes then I can continue to talk about coupling your vision.
  The first issue here is that you must a vision before talking about coupling,  I tell you if you engage to a sister or brother without a clare vision for future you have just signed up for a married or life without a definition.
Note: A brother /sister without a vision is a ship without a rudder or plane without a map such will crash it's a matter of time.
   The reason is because if you don't have(vision ) now you will still have but  it's dangerous for your relationship  (home) Because it will have negative effect since such vision may base or engineered by friends or desire to be like someone out the marriage.  So if this first issue is settled then we are good to go on how to couple the vision. Any questions on this?

Chapter 2:
    1 John 4:1 NIV
Dear friends, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits to see whether they are from God, because many false prophets have gone out into the world.
    Let hear how the message bible put 1 John 4:1; 
    
    My dear friends, don't believe everything you hear. Carefully weigh and examine what people tell you. Not everyone who talks about God comes from God. There are a lot of lying preachers loose in the world.
     Like I use to tell people during counselling that there must be a time of relating your visions to each other so as to couple is as one; both of you need to be able to examine each vision weather is of God or its an ambition, the bible says test all spirit;meaning test the vision if it's of God and ambition. Use these weapons;
1. The word of God
2. Use prayer.  Pray your partner's vision with all seriousness and if it's of God you will know.  
      When both vision are tested those that passed the test will emerge?then you are good to bring them couple them together or integrate them.
    Let me tell you a short story during my courtship I went for Navy form because since I was a child I loved to be a Naval official because they are rich,their uniform and how they command respect in the society , I prayed and fast for long days for it but my fiancée was begging God without my knowledge that ' if this navy work is not  your (God) plan let it not work out because she wanted a husband that will be at home not weekend husband and eventually I lost the training even with the fact that God has promised to give me the Job.it was holy spirit that told me her prayers so I confronted her and she said yes.
     Many things we call vision from God are zeal and passion which we gather over the years,let your vision be test in the word of God.

Chapter 3
   You must not be sefish; any issue also your vision is tested is that we need not to be sefish about it, don't say because am the man or because am from rich home I must decided vision which we must run. Pray your vision and place them on the following scales:
1. Size: which one is bigger
2. How easy to achieve
3. Short or long time vision
4. How expensive is it
    These  scale will help you to know which vision should come after another. In this part no need to be sefish because if God has given your partner to you then the vision must be integrated easily if not so problem is hiding somewhere.

Chapter
    Arrange your vision accordingly,  don't put a vision that will take away your vision before the one that will bring in money to the family. Don't tell your husband to go village for missionary while you stay to make money in lagos; plan and set it right.
    
Things to do to help you couple it well
1. You need to sensitive spiritually and emotional to each to be sure that you're not hurting and silencing the other partner.
2. When I talked about the testing of the vision;if you're sensitive enough you will know if your spouse is happy or not,so if after months he or she did not recover from it,then start praying about such issue it's can be coupled because it's not a sin to run ambition but it's a sin when its does not bring Glory to God.